Do you know your CongressPerson?

But I bet you know who Gabby Giffords is by now. Caution, a bit of self-indulgence that might seem harsh.....or not.

Dear TV: Please stop the constant updating of the Tucson shooting. Frankly I'm tired of it, and getting a bit, yes, dare I say it, nauseated.

When I heard of the event, my stomach dropped, I was sickened, crying tears for those who'd lost loved ones. And the death of Federal District Judge John Roll hit chillingly close to home for me, a federal official court reporter.

But the continued minute-by-minute coverage is exhausting. I began flashbacking to my uncle's murder in the summer of '08. NBC interviewed poor little Christina Green's classmates and friends, but I thought of ALL of the youngsters who actually witnessed the lunatic who shot up the church my uncle was in, what trauma they witnessed and still harbor today.

The President never made his way to my uncle's memorial service -- no less a hero than anyone in Tucson by using his body to block the door to the sanctuary so the shooter could do no more harm. The President never went to Linda Kraeger's funeral, the other victim in that church shooting.

There have been so many mass shootings that are a momentary glimpse on the news. In the spring of '08, my brother's colleague's daugther died here. I know that the families of Catalina Garcia, Julianna Gehant, Ryanne Mace (my brother's friend's daughter), Gayle Dubowski and Daniel Parmenter mourn till this day.

Or what about this shooting?

While the President's words were inspiring, the whole "pep rally" like atomosphere and all the political wrangling going on is just too much for me to take. All the talking heads spending hours opining about our gun laws, what caused the shooting, and every nuance of Ms.Giffords medical progress is wearisome.

All you really need to know is there are family and friends of the victims out there that have had their hearts ripped from their chest. They will begin doubting whether they will ever feel joy ever again in their life. And from the moment they heard the news, going forward, there will be times jumping off a cliff will seem preferable to the wrenching pain of grief.

The media and lookie-loos, the hangers on, need to step away and let the real participants in this tragedy heal.